Bearing with the faults of others can sometimes be a burden. Some people are just hard to get along with. People can really rub you the wrong way sometimes, you know what I mean? People drive too close behind you. One person’s answer to that this week was to shoot them. Maybe we haven’t shot anyone but maybe we wanted to. If not that extreme, then at least give them a piece of our mind.
Some people are plain obnoxious; they get in your personal space, they make rude comments, they do inconsiderate things. You feel a certain tension when they walk in the room or call you on the phone. We like to say, “They just rub me the wrong way”. If that’s not enough, there are some people who don’t like us. They aren’t just rude or inconsiderate, they’re mean or ugly. Bearing with them is a double burden. What’s a person to do?
In Colossians 3: 13 Paul says we should forgive them. He was, of course, repeating Jesus. When someone says that to us we want to answer, “You just don’t know what they did.” Well, they put Jesus on a cross and they weren’t kind in the process. They slapped him and spit on him. They hurled insults on him and made fun of him. Hanging there on the cross, blood trickling down his face, barely able to breathe he looked at the anger in their face and listened to the hatred in their voices and quietly said to his father in heaven, “Forgive them.”
Find it hard to forgive? Maybe it’s your fault. You may not be able to follow Paul’s advice in verse 13 because you failed to follow his advice in verse 12. Let’s read it again together.
“So as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Think again of Jesus on the cross. He forgave those who put him there not because of who they were but because of the kind of heart he had. He was full of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. He bears our faults so that we can bear the faults of others.
Those who have the heart of the holy and beloved have no problem forgiving others since they are constantly aware that they are the forgiven ones. If you are experiencing forgiveness issues with other people, check your own heart and stop worrying about theirs’.